Death and The Night

So… how about this: let’s die well.

When we die, let’s do that whole death thing with a sense of peace, however & whenever that ends up happening. It’s gonna happen, and when it does, when you’re right up against that point, there’s stuff that’ll go through your head. What do you want to be thinking? As I’ve shared a week ago, I like the idea of lying on my death bed and knowing I’ve given my greatest gift.

Besides living each day as if it were your last, or as if you’re already dead, to get the most out of life… death seems pretty far away. So is that feeling of impending end as a motivator for giving your greatest gift. So let’s scale down both the severity of death and how far it is in the future – let’s call this the night. Let’s re-do the previous paragraph, replacing ‘death’ with ‘sleep’.

When we sleep, let’s do that whole sleep thing with a sense of peace, however & whenever that ends up happening. It’s gonna happen, and when it does, when you’re up against that point, there’s stuff that’ll go through your head. What do you want to be thinking? As I’ve shared a week ago, I like the idea of lying on my sleep bed and knowing I’ve given my greatest gift.

Now, Steve Pavlina on his blog has a great post that covers one way to simulate the death bed scene, except with way less drama, ’cause I’m in my Stewie-from-Family-Guy PJ’s. The following, lifted from his article on The Power of Clarity, is what I keep in mind as I go about my day. Give it a shot.

I was once told by someone that I should end each day by crossing it off my calendar and saying out loud, “There goes another day of my life, never to return again.” Try this for yourself, and notice how much it sharpens your focus. When you end a day with the feeling that you would have lived it the same if you had the chance to repeat it, you gain a sense of gratitude that helps you focus on what’s really important to you. When you end the day with a feeling of regret or loss, you gain the awareness to try a different approach the next day.

Find Your Path via Dreamlining

Ah, Dreamlining. Putting a timeline to your dreams. Defining them and their costs, and then creating a plan to realize them within 6 months, the first step of which can be taken today. In ‘The 4-Hour Workweek’ by Tim Ferriss, he goes into detail about how to do this, providing a worksheet to fill out how you would realize ‘the four dreams that would change it all’.

Man, doesn’t that sound great? The four dreams that would change it all… How about just one dream – let’s start with that. Need a little help? (I want a motorcycle! I already have the jacket…) He provided some questions that should get that dream engine started. Ask yourself the following.

  • What if there was no way I could fail?
  • What if I were 10 times smarter than the rest of the world?
  • What would I do day to day if $100 million were in the bank?
  • What am I most excited to wake up to day to day?
  • What am I good at?
  • What could I be best at?
  • What makes me happy?
  • What excites me?
  • What makes me feel accomplished & good about myself?
  • Can I repeat or further develop what I’m most proud of having accomplished in my life?
  • What do I enjoy sharing or experiencing with other people?

So go ahead. I’m sure your gut has an answer. What are the four dreams that would change it all?

Find Your Path via Unique Ability

The concept of ‘Unique Ability’ by Dan Sullivan was introduced to me via watching/listening to the DVD program ‘On Being A Man’ by David DeAngelo. David mentions this as one way to find your heart-centered purpose / path / mission in life. Just by going over how it’s defined here has seriously helped me confirm mine.

  • It Is A Superior Ability – other people notice it and value it
  • You Love Doing It – and want to do it as much as possible
  • It Energizes You – and others around you
  • You Keep Getting Better At It – there are always possibilities to improve

The next two posts will cover other sets of questions that have aided in uncovering my vision for myself, strategically critical as a Product Owner.

OK, so let’s read those four bullet points again.

Now… did you feel that? That click? That slight internal shifting of realization?

You know your unique ability. You know what it is.

Can you accept it?