My daughter is in the phase where she’s always asking me “why?”, so she asks me, “Why do you go to work?” …and I hate how a toddler has given me so much pause… because I don’t like my answer.
Here’s a window into an internal struggle:
Do you work for a company with an inspiring vision? Why the heck not? And why do you choose to spend your days contributing to a group that’s not improving humanity?
And now, here’s my struggle as I iterate on my Agility:
Why continue to focus on how things are being built & done when what we are building & doing is not improving humanity?
What do I tell my 2-year-old daughter? Continue reading
It’s 5am. It is OK to hate reality. You know you want to. Go ahead. I grant thee permission.
Oh, you’re right: the other half of the blog post title represents a more stoic and less detached approach to life, and while, on a good day, y’might resolve to this state, you’re likely to have an initial set of cortisol-driven, fear-based reactions.
And I say: embrace it …for a bit …because you’re human and this is part of the experience …and you only live twice. (#YOLT)
This isn’t a post about how an emotionally mature way to handle change we don’t at first like is to recall Bill Belichick’s, “it is what it is”.
This isn’t a post about how it is more spiritually sustainable to remove outcome from life events, and to go with the flow.
This isn’t even a post about allowing yourself to feel emotions (even though that’s how I’m starting all this).
It is about how the title is “Reality Now Sucks, AND is also Just Different”, and not “Reality Now Sucks, BUT is also Just Different”. Continue reading
I’m pretty useless after the dance party.
After dinner, the table mostly put away, and our daughter’s toys mostly… not put away (yet), the CD player goes on, and the dance party begins.
Matt Heaton steps the tiny masses through basic behavioural norms like stopping and going. Then there’s a Wombat Dance. (We have a 2-year-old, so this all makes sense.) Before Matt, but still in popular rotation, we had Karen K and the Jitterbugs, wherein you, too, may want to be a Jitterbug, or have Pancakes for Dinner.
At some parentally appointed point, the music stops.
At some later painfully negotiated point, toys are put away.
At some even later peacefully navigated point, our daughter is in bed.
At this point, I’m pretty useless.
There’s 1-2 hours left in regulation time before the daily game is over, and I’m not really in the mood for anything creative or productive. Personal growth-related activities? Pfft, grrrl, please.
So what’s a citizen to do? Continue reading
I have been bitten.
By the ‘minimalism’ bug.
Now all my paragraphs will be one-phrase sentences.
(I have a 1.5-year-old, so we borrowed Taro Gomi’s 1977 classic ‘Everyone Poops’ from the library. In it is one of the best-est two illustrated pages of human literature EVAR. “A one-hump camel makes a one-hump poop and a two-hump camel makes a two-hump poop. Only kidding!” You’re welcome.)
This is after reading ‘Simplify – 7 Guiding Principles to Help Anyone Declutter Their Home and Life’, the wicked cheap e-book by Joshua Becker.
Much to my surprise, getting rid of stuff… to have less stuff… to start feeling like the toga partying Stoics of Ancient Greece… wasn’t the point.
Neigh Nay, fair horse citizen! ‘Twas for the purpose of a higher ideal. Continue reading
(The following is what I shared with my co-workers today shortly after noon, Boston time, the day after we elected Trump to the presidency.)
To those of us who voted, hello there. This is for you.
I was born in a literal kingdom (…of Saudi Arabia) 8,000 miles away, onto soil that was… not home. I spent the first half of my life (17 years) there, surrounded by ex-patriots knowing one day we’d all… go home. One day, we’d go live in America, and do American things, like vote.
That’s why yesterday was special for me. I got to vote yesterday.
In the hope of connecting to others’ humanity ( [robot face] [winking face] ), and at the risk of sounding unprofessional, I’ll share my candidate didn’t win the presidency, and this has gotten me to think about what it means to vote. ( controversial hook / tension builds… ) Continue reading